By Justine Namara
People have hardly moved on from assumptions and scenarios of women proposing to men and every time a lady goes on a bent knee to pop the question, everyone else around acts awkwardly as if it is an abomination.
It is just recently when a girl made a scene at Cayenne bar when she went on her knees to ask her ‘mzungu’ lover to marry her. Thank God he said yes and was booed by everyone who was present at the moment. The idea of a woman predicting her future with a man has for a long time been men’s thing, it is for some unspeakable reason that most people still think that’s how it should.
Times have changed and women have more confidence and arguably more freedom to do what they please, be it asking a man to marry them. Some men argue that surely the burden of taking effort to propose or risking being rejected in front of a restaurant should be equally shared.
Some women will strongly disagree to the whole idea of proposing to men for purposes of not being misunderstood. “I do not think I can propose to my boyfriend. This will mean that I am very desperate and I wouldn’t want to be called desperate,” says Anita Nagawa.
Believably, there is still a big number of women who think that suggesting a marriage to their better half is alarming.
Allan Mugerwa on the other had thinks that there is no single problem with a lady determining what she wants as far as marriage is concerned.
“I find it sexy and appeasing when a woman proposes to a man. It shows that she is confident about herself and who wouldn’t want a confident woman anyway? Though some men are scared of such kind of women, I really would say yes if she asked,” he says.
Let’s all agree that a woman proposing first is not related to her moral background because ideally there is no ethical reason as to why women should do not ask men to marry them. If a man proposes, it does not guarantee a long lasting marriage and on the other hand a woman may propose and this will not devalue the man, the marriage may actually last.
Given that we are not going backwards, we shall agree that women empowerment is a great deal and such actions portray gender equality and when a guy says yes to his woman, what we can only do is to wish them the best.